It’s true. A dv advocate reminded me to document all ongoing incidents. There was a quieter harassment period for months after a relationship ended where I had to negotiate regarding a shared child in common. I tried to be amicable by meeting in public places, but the abuser escalated. It’s important to strategize with advocates who have expertise assessing and creating safety plans. When the person realized I would not be coerced into reuniting, the fear for my safety established clear and present danger. In civil cases, declarations by witnesses of past behavior can establish the pattern. Also, if there is any history of intimate partner or other violence, previous orders can be submitted with a petition. I moved toward seeking protective orders from the court.
These aren’t reciprocal relationships that end in a recognizable way with mutual disappointment or feelings of grief. Escaping safely is important because the most dangerous time for a woman is when she’s trying to get away.
I found an advocacy agency that was instrumental in helping create enforceable boundaries with a serial predator who needed legal consequences for violating them. She told me to record interactions and to create a log which I did use effectively to protect my family.
I renewed the order four years in a row until he chose to stop engaging. I called the police every time to file a police report and establish a pattern. They were also there for us, but they will be quick to say they can’t intervene without orders. They recommended us to always call and document regardless because the police report itself can be entered into evidence even if the person is gone before arrival.
Please don’t hesitate to call on police and ask for follow through if you feel threatened. To file a civil order, fear for your safety is considered. People say snitches get stitches but I will sing like a birdie and call the police all day and night.
It’s ok to enlist support from law enforcement. Stay safe.
Yes, practical actions can save lives. Yet, sometimes survivors of such situations are scapegoated by toxic positivity/manifest movements that disparage people for existing in conditions beyond our control. The world has too much disparity to blame human beings for what they are living through.
Yeah, homie don't play that as either a practitioner or as a survivor. I am heavily into people doing what they need to do to protect themselves. And the first step in that process is admitting that we are afraid.
Predators gonna predator. It’s been years since I encountered such shenanigans, but my son was tormented by a teacher. It’s reactivated this deep need to warn people about the tactics.
It’s true. A dv advocate reminded me to document all ongoing incidents. There was a quieter harassment period for months after a relationship ended where I had to negotiate regarding a shared child in common. I tried to be amicable by meeting in public places, but the abuser escalated. It’s important to strategize with advocates who have expertise assessing and creating safety plans. When the person realized I would not be coerced into reuniting, the fear for my safety established clear and present danger. In civil cases, declarations by witnesses of past behavior can establish the pattern. Also, if there is any history of intimate partner or other violence, previous orders can be submitted with a petition. I moved toward seeking protective orders from the court.
These aren’t reciprocal relationships that end in a recognizable way with mutual disappointment or feelings of grief. Escaping safely is important because the most dangerous time for a woman is when she’s trying to get away.
I found an advocacy agency that was instrumental in helping create enforceable boundaries with a serial predator who needed legal consequences for violating them. She told me to record interactions and to create a log which I did use effectively to protect my family.
I renewed the order four years in a row until he chose to stop engaging. I called the police every time to file a police report and establish a pattern. They were also there for us, but they will be quick to say they can’t intervene without orders. They recommended us to always call and document regardless because the police report itself can be entered into evidence even if the person is gone before arrival.
Please don’t hesitate to call on police and ask for follow through if you feel threatened. To file a civil order, fear for your safety is considered. People say snitches get stitches but I will sing like a birdie and call the police all day and night.
It’s ok to enlist support from law enforcement. Stay safe.
I am glad you were able to navigate your situation.
Trust me, if this person or any other, were to give me reason to call the cops I would not hesitate.
Yes, practical actions can save lives. Yet, sometimes survivors of such situations are scapegoated by toxic positivity/manifest movements that disparage people for existing in conditions beyond our control. The world has too much disparity to blame human beings for what they are living through.
Yeah, homie don't play that as either a practitioner or as a survivor. I am heavily into people doing what they need to do to protect themselves. And the first step in that process is admitting that we are afraid.
Homeslice! You and my son share the same name.
Predators gonna predator. It’s been years since I encountered such shenanigans, but my son was tormented by a teacher. It’s reactivated this deep need to warn people about the tactics.
Also, Nazis…
We’re not going gently.