My own counselor said something very similar to me, years ago. Initially I was kind of pissed--like why the eff have I been spending all this time(decades)/energy/money on healing myself--and "am I THAT broken?" (Yes.) After a while all that got replaced by a sassy kind of liberation, and I now just have an internal agreement to do the best I can and to be kind and gentle to myself and the container(s) I reside in. 'Healing at oneself' can be a form of abuse in itself.
My own counselor said something very similar to me, years ago. Initially I was kind of pissed--like why the eff have I been spending all this time(decades)/energy/money on healing myself--and "am I THAT broken?" (Yes.) After a while all that got replaced by a sassy kind of liberation, and I now just have an internal agreement to do the best I can and to be kind and gentle to myself and the container(s) I reside in. 'Healing at oneself' can be a form of abuse in itself.
"Healing at oneself" yes! It can be abusive. We "deserve" kind and gentle not matter what.
I love this.
Such an important perspective/ piece of the puzzle of "healing/ wholeness" and you put words to it so incredibly well. Thank you Justice.
It's rather freeing, isn't it!
yes!