You just summed up the "Greatest and Chiefest Calamity of Our Age!" (Tolkien), in what, couple hundred words? My 71 years of tracking, reading, ruminating, recoiling, redirecting, rejoicing, rejoining fighting, withdrawing, rejecting, being rejected and finally landing grounded, in the gruesome truth of this borg thing stalking humanity, and able to see without abject terror because the Ground is my Witness.
Wow Justice! I have listened and read lots of things on narcissism but this is the best I have seen on the subject! The perspective you bring in this article is just so right on and eye opening, and it says it all in just a few words, wow!
Justice, I subscribed quite a while ago but didn't figure out how to access my subscription til yesterday.
Once again, your writing nails it for me! I acquised early on, then I'd speak up and be gaslit and give up. As a 'grown-up' I would say that I wanted to open a man's ribcage and climb in for the ride. I overrode my thoughts, feelings and gut to go along for years with inconvenient intermittent intrusions of my own voice. It's been 3 months since the original man who cowed me into this survival mode left the planet. Most days I find forgotten pieces of myself. I didn't know this until today. Thank you!
I'm so glad you joined the discussion! Yes, this kind of revealing can take a lifetime, and it impresses on so many of relationship structures. Keep letting those pieces come home. Keep tending to them as they get revealed.
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You just summed up the "Greatest and Chiefest Calamity of Our Age!" (Tolkien), in what, couple hundred words? My 71 years of tracking, reading, ruminating, recoiling, redirecting, rejoicing, rejoining fighting, withdrawing, rejecting, being rejected and finally landing grounded, in the gruesome truth of this borg thing stalking humanity, and able to see without abject terror because the Ground is my Witness.
Wow Justice! I have listened and read lots of things on narcissism but this is the best I have seen on the subject! The perspective you bring in this article is just so right on and eye opening, and it says it all in just a few words, wow!
Thank you, Natalie! I've been working to understand and articulate it for years as I've healed from my own narcissistic abuse.
I'm glad it's helpful for you!
Justice, I subscribed quite a while ago but didn't figure out how to access my subscription til yesterday.
Once again, your writing nails it for me! I acquised early on, then I'd speak up and be gaslit and give up. As a 'grown-up' I would say that I wanted to open a man's ribcage and climb in for the ride. I overrode my thoughts, feelings and gut to go along for years with inconvenient intermittent intrusions of my own voice. It's been 3 months since the original man who cowed me into this survival mode left the planet. Most days I find forgotten pieces of myself. I didn't know this until today. Thank you!
I'm so glad you joined the discussion! Yes, this kind of revealing can take a lifetime, and it impresses on so many of relationship structures. Keep letting those pieces come home. Keep tending to them as they get revealed.